‘Those who judge you for sticking to this boundary are not respecting your wishes and therefore are not worthy of access to you.’ Photo posed
Q: I am very much enjoying dating at the moment and making the most of being in my 20s. However, I keep experiencing one issue over and over, which is recently stopping me from taking things to a more intimate level — a lot of guys don’t want to wear condoms. They say they feel uncomfortable or suggest that because I’m on the pill it’s OK, or that they are clean. I feel like I have to insist, which does sour the mood for me a bit because I get annoyed that they make a big deal out of it.
Some of them judged me because I had some condoms and they didn’t. One of them even sent me a Snapchat message the next day saying that he wouldn’t have slept with me if he had known I was a ‘dirty girl’. I was really hurt by this, and it took me a while to get over that. I haven’t been intimate with anyone since, as I am so tired of this issue and being called names for asking for a condom to be used. I feel ready to get back out there, but what can I do if this comes up yet again?
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